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Monday, September 10, 2012
My Anger as a Parent of a child with cancer
People say that Grief comes in stages well i guess im at the anger stage and im not sure ill ever be over it, im angry my child has cancer,im angry there is No funding for pediatric cancer,im angry that she has spent the majority of her 6yrs on earth in a hospital room hooked up to machines and tubes and im so fucking angry that once again we are being told that there may not be a chance for her to grow up!!!I have so much anger weighing me down that i dont know how i stand up some days and yet i go on and i smile and act like life is perfect because thats what she needs to me do.I help her goto the bathroom while she cries in pain because once again her stomach has been cut open to remove a tumor that's killing her and im so angry that after all that the docs say they dont think there is anything else they can do surgically to help her,im angry that if she doesnt have a certain gene that will put her onto a clinical trial that i have to make the decision on whether or not to put her through more hell or let her come home and enjoy what time she has left with us...there is so much anger its eating my soul...im angry that i may have to tell one child she is going to die and im angry that i may have tell her little sister that one day her big sister will be gone and she wont ever be coming back..i am so Angry that Cancer is stealing ALL OF OUR LIVES...it's killing my baby and stealing the rest of our souls as we watch her suffer....there are so many people that say they are praying for her and i should believe in miracles and that god will find a way and you know what?? THAT PISSES ME OFF BECAUSE WHERE ARE THEY.....are they here watching her suffer and die? NO they are behind computer screens and hiding in there homes instead of coming to see her because they cant handle this , they cant handle seeing her sick or in pain, they cant deal with the fact that she may die BUT they all want to have an opinion on what we should do and how we should handle the news and what treatments we should or shouldnt do and ya know what FUCK everyone that doesnt think i have done the right thing till now or doesnt like the decisions i will make about her future because i swear to All that is Holy if one person tells me i am giving up because i decide to let her have quality of life instead of quantity so help me i will end them......NO PARENT SHOULD EVER HAVE TO LOSE THERE CHILD TO THIS HORRIBLE SOUL SUCKING DISEASE OR HAVE TO JUSTIFY THERE DECISIONS FOR THERE CHILD TO ANYONE...Believe me we will have to live with whatever decisions we make for the rest of our lives and they will eat us alive everytime we think what if....I wouldnt wish this hell on my worst enemy...i wouldnt wish this hell on the terrorists that attacked our nation on september 11th, even though they deserve to suffer for everything they put our country through they still wouldnt deserve this...Cancer is a form of terrorism as far as im concerned,it attacks when you least expect it and it tears huge holes in the structure/foundation of your life....Besides the anger i have so much Fear...I fear i wont be able to be strong enough when she needs me to, i fear i wont be strong enough to still be a good parent to her sister if i lose her,i fear that i will lay down and die without her because she is the best of me and i dont know how to life without that part of me...Audrianna was my miracle baby that i waited 14yrs to have..she came early and fought for every breathe and then when she was finally well she was diagnosed with cancer and has literally fought from her first breathe to be here and LIVE...and i cannot understand why she has had this fight and why she has to continue to fight other then the fact that she has taught me and so many others how to be strong...i would never say i love one of my children more then the other because i dont...i love both the girls so much and i cannot imagine my life without one or the other they have both been true miracles and blessings to me and my biggest fear is that i will lose them both if audrianna dies...i feel like Kyra will hate and resent me for the rest of her life because she will blame me for her sister leaving and spend the rest of her life in therapy for the things i as her mother couldnt fix....so between the anger and the fear right now i feel like im drowning and i might never be able to swim to the surface again....i have always been there for everyone else and always been the strong one and right now i just feel like im cracking in half and i dont know how to put the pieces back together to stay strong for the people who need me...im starting to feel like humpty dumpty and i fear the pieces may never be put back together again....please hug your children tighter tonight and always remember to tell them that you love them even when they are being so bratty you want to lose your mind because you never know if there will be a tomorrow to say those words to them!